Say Goodbye to Being Shy: A Workbook to Help Kids Overcome Shyness Paperback – May 1, 2008

My son has ASD, so I've been working with him for a long time. I have a very good feel for what he'll respond to, and what isn't going to work.This behaviorally based workbook will be extremely effective with him. Each lesson is prefaced with a short objective, and is written in clear, simple language. My son can give himself points for reading and working through the activity, and then redeem his points for rewards (prior to starting the book, you and your child will work out an incentive program according to the guidelines in the book).The exercises in this book help a child combat shyness by teaching him to do the following:1. reframe what he is thinking and feeling (using positive self-talk, noticing friendliness around you, etc...)2. practice good social skills (eye contact, how to apologize, expressing yourself just right, etc...)3. combat anxiety and nerves (breathing exercises, using music to change your mood, etc...) and4. build his confidence (train to be a champion, practicing bravery, happy memories, helping hands).The exercises are really practical. For example, in "Train to Be a Champion", the idea is for the child to learn that practice does result in improved skills and abilities, which results in a sense of control and self-confidence. The 3 skills the child practices (over 10 days) in this lesson are tossing pennies in a cup; jumping rope; and a skill of the child's own choosing. I think it was a great idea to choose skills that would improve rather quickly -- as someone trying to learn the guitar, I can attest that 10 days of practice isn't going to make you significantly better. However, my son is sure to be better at jumping rope or tossing pennies, and will gain a very specific lesson in the value of practice.Because my son has ASD, I don't actually expect his shyness to improve substantially after working though the 40 exercises book like the authors suggest. However, this book will give him an arsenal of valuable tools, and over a more substantial period of time, I'm sure he'll find them very helpful in navigating social situations.

Ok, so I got this book as a parent looking for some helpful exercises for my shy 6 year old. I would say it’s more for therapist working with shy children. I am actually a therapist myself and think this book is really great to be used in therapy. When my child is older I may have her work through it on her own at home or in therapy. Any therapist working with kids should get this boom

My 10 yo daughter has Selective Mutism and she only talks to a few family members. I have tried everything and nothing has helped until now. She started counseling and i purchased this book for her to use in her sessions. This was the best purchase i ever made. This book breaks down skills you can use to get over your anxiety. She has only gone over the first 5 exercises and she has started talking at school. Her teachers are emailing me to let me know how excited they are for her.I go over the exercises every night with her also. I recommend this book to anyone who has a shy or SM child.

The good thing about this book is that it is practical. It provides useful exercises that you can do with your child that at the very least gets your child to talk about their shyness, try out new things, and have fun doing it. My daughter previously had not even wanted to discuss the topic. Now she's discussing her thoughts and feelings, and trying things out.I've read other books on the same topic that were just writing with no exercises, and nothing of value came from just reading. The activities in this book are far more valuable than theoretical knowledge. I highly recommend this book!

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I recommend this book for anyone working with kids with SM or just plain shy. We also got the one on making good relationships.

Great Resource for individuals and groups.

Bought when my son became very shy at new primary school after moving to new area. Read and worked on it with him while we sat in car every morning. Very interactive layout. A great resource for 1-1 and aided opening up conversation and discussion. Definitely helped. He now has lots of friends😀 would recommend to 7-10