Models: Attract Women Through Honesty Paperback – 28 July 2011

This is not just a great book, it is the best book on self-improvement and dating advice ever. For more than 1 year I read Red Pill BS every day. I was sick and tired, didn’t have a great alternative, or you read red pill, or you read mainstream cliché BS, and those guys from the 'manosphere' use cult tactics to convince they are the real and only macho thing.After 1,5 years I decided to give a last chance and try this “Models” that a lot of guys talk about. But I was skeptical because I tought it was too 'soft'.I was wrong.After a few pages I knew this was the true answer to what I really needed: become attractive and understand women very well without changing yourself completly. I got much more than that.Mark Mason doesn’t write simple theories like everybody else. Everything he writes has a lot of cientifical research and his own experience. That is why this is a revolution in seduction knowledge — remember, I had been read dating advice from hundreds of professional "players" every day for 1,5 years, I kept reading because I felt that everything I read was unhealthy theories based on their bad experiences and beliefs about women, only to find out what I already suspected deep down: they are all f*ck*d up in their heads.My advice to every guy who wants to become attractive and learn how to be good with the ladies: buy this book and read it several times. You'll never need to read anything more ever again. Get rid of all Red Pill stuff you have. This is the complete guide, gives you the true attractiveness and seductive knowledge without any "fake it until you make it" or tricks and tactics. No more boy games, this is for real men who have courage to be honest and straight foward.And the most important thing: you won't be a mentally ill women-hater.You will learn to trully admire and understand women for what they are instead of seeing them as labeled objects who are meant to be exploited.Remember guys, women are a very important part of our lives, so it is important learn this right.I am very lucky to have this precious knowledge.Thank you Mark for all the effort!

Haven’t read a dating book in ages, but this one really stood out for me. I’ve always been an admirer of Mark’s books.

Frustration with loneliness is a touchy subject, and I don't think anyone gets it ALL right. But Mark's book is very good, and comes from a sincere place.Even though I didn't agree with all of it, it was always a fun read. I found this book because I found Mark's website and have enjoyed reading his various posts about things. He's got a great straight-talkin' style which is very enjoyable.What I found helpful about the book was his rationalization of the need to approach people, with practical small steps toward breaking that politeness/timidity barrier. This is legitimately a barrier for me that has built up to a level that now impedes my life. Methods such as starting with eye contact, or just talking to strangers, with no goal or self-interested intent at all, are great tips at how to exercise your social muscles. I definitely need to work on this because I've moved to a big city and don't know anyone there, and I work internationally so I'm really tasked with building a social network from scratch. He offers good advice for me here which I will implement, and he's got a good way of getting it across.I can agree to disagree with him that anyone who works a job that they may be good at but aren't passionate about is going to be demonstrating lower value and be sadly unattractive. Not everyone can be a record producer or play therapist. Mark suggests that by working for the money of a job I'm living dishonestly with myself. I see it as being straight with myself that I'd like to afford to do meaningful and sometimes expensive things when I am away from work, and this is an acceptable way to achieve that. I love art, but I'm also good with numbers. I should point out that many of those people "pushing paper" as he describes it have active and satisfying love lives...so it can't be THAT much of a turn off to have a steady but non-iconic job, can it, Mark? I understand that artists following their muses are sexier in that respect, but some of them also have to sleep in vans a lot, especially since the advent of the digital download. Like everything else in life, one has to choose their own balance. Mark is of course justifiably biased in that he has written his own book and website and is now reaping the benefits of doing exactly what he believes in. Bully for him, and I wish him continued success. But even if it does have an effect on social proof (which I concede it does), it is not a requirement to quit a good job to be attractive enough to find love. It is not even a requirement to quit the job in order to be honest with yourself, so I disagree with him there.I've read the other major PUA books and agree the writers' perspectives come mostly from a deep dark place in the "instructor". Mark's does not, although I think he does assume a little too much that every male is, at core, like him. And I don't know if Mark realises it or not, but he's pretty alpha. Whatever you like, dont' just pursue it, but get in there and LEAD it is his advice. The book ironically has given me a bit more focus on why I'm not attracting more women despite a very high quality personal lifestyle. I work offshore, so although I'm doing very well, dress well, am reasonably attractive, and my lifestyle is skillfully and tastefully indulgent, women never see my leadership in action, because it happens in foreign countries, on ships full of men. The leadership effect is absolutely correct - the periods in my life when I attracted the most women were directly tied to when I was working in leadership roles in their presence, and I lost my last girlfriend to someone who was working in a leadership role within her work sphere. Women like leadership.Leadership and social dominance work. BUT - and here's the other big thing the book helped me realise - part of defining who you are is deciding how many people you actually like to have in your social circles. Mark clearly likes to have plenty of numbers in his phone and to keep contact with a bevy of women who are attractive to him. I think this is the common male fantasy, and power to him, he has achieved this for himself. But I'm a different person. I don't want to have a huge circle of friends with lots of women on call. I prefer a smaller, tighter social set, and I only want one girlfriend, with a goal to make it work for life. If it doesn't work, I want another one girlfriend, etc.We all have our biological urges/imperatives, as Mark acknowledges well. But they're not all the same, or at the same levels. Frankly, I'm pretty sure my urges aren't compelling enough to have me go out and organize an ultimate frisbee team so that I can mesmerize one of its members by holding an ipad, doing the scheduling. Or schlep equipment and waste money going to a yoga class "gold mine" when I'm perfectly content doing yoga with a good DVD for free in my most excellent living room.Which leads us to one of Groucho Marx's most famous quotes - "I wouldn't want to be in any club who would have me for a member." And this is where most of dating advice falls flat for me - because I know demonstrating leadership works, I know boldness works,I know beating your chest and "demonstrating high social proof" works, I know that not giving a damn gets women interested and that showing you're keen does not - I know all of these things. But at core, I don't LIKE that they work, because ultimately, I consider those things to be very low bars and terrible (to the point of being even inversely proportional) indicators of genuine human quality or integrity. Frankly, I can't RESPECT* women who fall for this crap, and I need to respect someone to have even a friendship with them. Neil Strauss ended his infamous book by basically saying he fell in love when he met the woman upon whom his system did not work. Which makes perfect sense to me.*I'm not shouting at you, but I thought emphasis was important here and amazon doesn't allow the italics or bold that I would have preferred.If I desired the company of a being I could manipulate into a relationship with a system of demonstrations and establishment of social dominance, I'd get a dog. And before anyone loses their mind about me just comparing a significant percentage of women to dogs, men are not ANY better, in fact we are probably far, far worse. I know there are very basic and head-slapping principles that work on us too, which it is my job to rise above if I want to live with any integrity. So really, I just compared both sides of humanity to our canine cousins. I'm comfortable standing by that.In a spoken word performance William S Burroughs once asked in a funny voice "Well you could become a great leader, and benefit humanity, what's wrong with that?" He then answered himself in his own voice "...just about everything." A lot of my respected artists are loners and critics of general culture, which basically makes me something of a loner and critic. And that's OK - I actually like and respect that about myself - I just have to accept that not charming women who are predisposed to basic social proof (which is a sickeningly expansive subset, just like equally sickening male traits form an equally expansive subset in men) is going to be a consequence of that, and I'm going to feel generally unattractive sometimes despite what other desirable achievements I might have going for me out outside of the public eye.Mark might respond that this is part of understanding myself and therefore my demographic, and that therefore I should be looking for compatible partners in places where like-minded social critics are likely to congregate. This is correct, and I intend to do just this. But I do think that this book resembles other PUA material in the sense that it does not respect what may be legitimate about people who like smaller groups of more intense friendships. You either have hundreds of social contacts, or else you are a pussy (PUA standard) or you are not living honestly and need to get out there and find your inner leader (Mark). Deciding whether or not you actually LIKE leadership or RESPECT social proof is not a validated decision, but in my opinion this is a critical part of establishing your demographic. I had to read this between the lines of Models. To Mark's credit, Models is the first book of this kind that I've read where this could be found between the lines, because it at least acknowledges the concept of having one's own demographic and respecting it.In conclusion, I can't (or rather won't) work exactly like Mark because we're different people, and we both like it that way. No surprise there, but I think some people read these books a little literally, and don't realise that it's OK to diverge from the philosophy here and there. In order to adopt Mark's outlook on life and people, I think I'd have to decide to like humanity in general a lot more (or at least judge it a lot less), and for me, the evidence doesn't holistically sustain such enthusiasm.But Models was worth the read and the money. I will meet more people as a result of having read it, and as I said at the beginning, Mark is fun to read and I hope he writes more books. Oh and yes, if he wants a proof reader, I'll do it for a nice glass of whiskey or two in Texas or London, because yes, some sentences have jarring word dropouts or other stuff that may be fine for texting, but is ill-fitting in a book, let alone a third revision, dude ;)