Healing the Hurts of Your Past: A Guide to Overcoming the Pain of Shame

Healing the Hurts of Your Past: Overcoming the Pain of Shame by F. Remy Diederich can only be described as a life-altering read. The main topic of discussion in this book is shame, learning how to recognize it and defeat its power in your life. If you're thinking, "Oh, I don't struggle with shame, I've never done anything that bad," I urge you to purchase this book anyway. You'll probably be surprised at the things you'll discover you believed about yourself and how it has negatively affected your life.As a person who has been through every recovery book known to man, who has lived life as an addict and been set free from a multitude of other spiritual strongholds, I thought I would read things in this book that were familiar concepts or things I had already mastered in previous recovery efforts. I never expected it to have the impact on my life that it did. It's one thing to be set free from destructive behaviors, it's another thing altogether to discover what beliefs and attitudes propelled the wrong behavior in the first place. That's exactly what this book does in an amazingly brilliant way.Healing the Hurts of Your Past helped me to see the destructive role shame has played in my life over the years, and how easy it is to overlook it, thinking some other source is the cause of my problems. Nearly every "bad" behavior, whether physical (promiscuity) or emotional (bitterness) can be traced back to the pain of shame.This book needs to be in the hands of every recovering addict, for one, as well as parents and loved ones of people who are struggling with addiction, mental issues, depression, and suicidal tendencies. This book will change how you view your loved one who is suffering in these ways. And if you're the person who is suffering emotionally, this book (if you apply what you learn) will change your life too. If I had enough money I'd give everyone I know a copy of Healing the Hurts of Your Past.Honestly I was blown away at how accurate it describes the mind and the way shame affects so many areas of our lives from perfectionism to the way we raise our kids. The biggest takeaway for me was discovering how the shame I'd lived with had actually influenced the way I parented my child. I was able to see just how much emotional trauma I could potentially place on my child if I allowed shame's fruit to ripen in my life. It's easy to admit that our problems affect us; it's a whole other issue to admit our problems affect our children too.So, thank you Remy, for writing this book and sharing this truth with the world.Though author Remy Diederich had previously given me another one of his books to read/review (STUCK), this book was something I purchased on my own because I loved his other book so much. Everything I'm writing here is my own opinion and was not coerced in any way. I have not received anything in return for writing this review

First off this is a Christian book. If you are not a Christian there is plenty of good information here & insights that I'm sure will help you.. but the author is a Christian pastor & social worker and does not hide or disguise that.This book is well written and in a very readable pleasant style. It deals with traumas and hurts from one's past of all sizes with clarity, kindness & compassion at the same time giving you step by step tools & suggestions so that the individual who is desiring deliverance can get it with God's help. This book presents an excellent balance of scripture & anecdote. It does not "over spiritualize" or go off on weird tangents in a way that some books on "Christian emotional" healing do. Everything the author discusses is backed up by scripture. The book has exercises all the way through so the reader can progress as his/her own pace.Regardless of your past/present emotional issues this book has answers for you. I would recommend this book for teens on up.. it doesn't matter your age or sex or life circumstance.. many people have wounds, or behavior that stymies them.If you have a behavior pattern that seems "hopeless" or "unchangeable" it is possible there is an emotional root-- this book will with great tenderness yet firmness help you find if this is the case for you.This book can help you with God find answers, change & ultimately deliverance & healing. I recommend it to pastors & lay people alike.This book is well worth it's price. This will be a book I read-- and re-read. Thank you F. Remy Diederich.

Healing the Hurts of your Past...Simplified is knowing in your heart,head and emotions that you are loved unconditionally by a loving and faithful God. Reading thru the book slowly , absorbing it and going through the exercizes gives you a jumpstart to healing. It will help you to see that God is for you, not shaming as people who don't know God's love try to make you feel.I know this book has truth. It help's you to see yourself as God see's you whole and perfect in his eyes. Yes as Remy say's in the book we need to have guilt if we have done something wrong but not to continue in shame.I have lived with this knowlege of God my loving father for many year's and it is very freeing. It also helps you to love other's more unconditionlly too. To see other's from God's perspective and yourself is to me,Heaven on Earth.The church that Remy leads is a testimony of this book. His messages have and are transforming people's lives. You can tell by the unconditional love that people express to one-another..not only on Sunday but throughout the week.This book is free on Kindle from December 24 -28th

This book has changed my life. Like many people we have issues stemming from childhood. This book has giving me the tools and the power to begin healing my childhood hurt. I have already recommended this book to friends and family.

This book is helpful in seeing hurts and shame from the past as something to learn from, rather than as something that ruins your life. It gives you insight into forgiving yourself and others for bad things that have happened to you. Grow from these experiences, rather than be destroyed by them. It's possible to start from today and move forward, not dwell on the hurts of the past. What doesn't kill will make you stronger if you let it.

This is a book that works as a guide and tells us how to heal the suffering from past actions. It shows us a list of things that we should make rearranges in our way of thinking in order to change the things that hurts us inside.¨there is no one response to the pain of shame. Every person handles it in a different way.¨page 13.The author expresses six typical reactions to the pain. Denial, suppression, cover up, medication, suffering and suicide.¨men tend to deny their shame more than women to. I thin it is harder for men to admit that they hurt emotionally.¨ page. 13

The book is not advertised as being religious in nature. Not a bad thing, but not what I’m looking for and wouldn’t have bought it if the description was clearer.

You know the way that every once in a while you read a book that you want to buy a bunch of copies of and just give it away to those you know would get something out of it. Yeah so this is one of those books. I've only ever read maybe 4 or 5 books in my life that i felt that way about, but this is one of them. So i did just start giving a few copies away. It's a stunning book. I wish i'd read it 15 years ago. If i'm honest i let the title put me off reading it, but for me, this is one of those books you shouldn't judge by it's cover. As a counsellor myself, the way that Remy has integrated biblical truth with therapy is really impressive. Personally I'm not a big fan of "christian counselling", and prefer professional trained counsellors, who preferably also walk with God, which is why i love this book. I've read this book several times in the last few months. It focuses almost solely on dealing with the issue of Shame, and how our "shame based thinking" and outlook on life, can often come from those who shame us either directly or indirectly. It ends brilliantly with some suggestions and signposting rather than just telling what to do and think instead. Seriously just buy it and read it.

I read all the reviews as well as looking into the book - I found the good reviews to be all true. This is a most helpful book on very sensitive issues. I sincerely hope that others find it beneficial to them as well as I did!

I haven't started yet but the index looks intriging

Well written, easy to read and understand. Essential reading if you have any of the issues covered in this book