All About Love: New Visions (Love Song to the Nation Book 1) Kindle Edition

I don’t like to review books that much because I think it’s very personal. Although, I want to review this one because it’s such a light and good book - even physically- easy to read, direct to the point and brings many points for you to understand the writers thought process. Talking about love is not an easy job, another reason why so little people actually can say about it. The knowledge of love shouldn’t be only from a personal point of view as I was taught by this book. If we knew those principles since kindergarten- and kept reinforcing them throughout school and adulthood - we would all be different as a society. Love is not as subjective as many of us think and shouldn’t be so difficult to talk about. I like her perspective and I was worried about this book since I know she is not as conservative as I am.Even though I have my conservative views I still very much enjoy this book. I agree with the social structure about how the world raise women and men differently in society that caused many of us to believe love has to be “understood” and act differently based on your background but most based on your gender. Regardless of where I stand politically, I see middle ground with the writerIt taught me many things I will take for the rest of my life, using the knowledge mixed with my therapy sessions I already feel more confident as a woman.(Apologies for my typos - English second language here).

The book came in great condition. This was a joy to read, and has easily become a favorite of mine. I highly recommend this book to pretty much anyone. hooks' musings about the concept of love and loving practice are eye opening and nourishing to the soul. The only downside is that after one becomes more aware of what true love really is, it stinks to realize truly how little of it we see in our media these days. Hell, it's rarely seen in most romantic relationships! Reading this book comes with the tragedy of understanding how much it is needed. I find my standards have changed now that I have more of the tools to articulate what it is that I expect of real love with specificity. That isn't in a romantic sense, but in platonic friendships and familial relationships as well. I genuinely hope that more people will read this work, and that their hearts will be open to it. Rest in Peace, bell hooks. I look forward to reading more of your work.

There aren't many public discussions of love in America outside of popular culture -- movies, music, books, magazines -- but there should be, because lack of an expansive understanding of and capacity for love is behind much that is wrong in our society. When bell hooks noticed that the world she was living in "was no longer open to love" and that "lovelessness had become the order of the day," she decided to write about it. "I began thinking and writing about love when I heard cynicism instead of hope in the voices of young and old," she says.The result is a book that's a refreshing change from relationship advice books that completely overlook the cultural context of love -- the ways in which love is difficult for both men and women, but especially for women, in a patriarchal culture; the ways in which a more expansive understanding of love is sorely needed to set things right in a country run by fear. hooks begins by addressing the pervasive confusion about what love is, defining it as M. Scott Peck does: "The will to extend oneself for the purpose of nurturing one's own or another's spiritual growth."The chapters in which hooks names "the ways we are seduced away from love" read as a litany of soul-corroding cultural norms. There is, most fundamentally, injustice to children in dysfunctional families in a culture where family dysfunction is normalized. Then there's the increasing prevalence of lying in public and private transactions alike, most recently exemplified in the Enron scandal and the priest-pedophile scandal in the Catholic Church. There's the cultural obsession with power and domination instead of a love ethic. (hooks pulls no punches when she states: "An overall cultural embrace of a love ethic would mean that we would all oppose much of the public policy conservatives condone and support.") There's also the vast and unending greed encouraged by a consumerist society. And last but not least, there's our collective fear of and at the same time worship of death. (What else could explain the great popularity of movies saturated with violence, such as "Lord of the Rings"?)Then there are the chapters where hooks explores the importance of self-love, the reality of divine love, the crucial role played by friendships and communities, the role of romantic love in helping us resolve and transform family-of-origin wounds if approached consciously, the real healing power of true love, and the yearning for love that lies behind the popular fascination with angels. The only topic I found missing from her comprehensive look at love is biophilia, that love of nature named by Harvard biologist Edward O. Wilson. I'm coming to realize that any concept of intimacy with our particular place on earth is sorely absent from most American lives, imperiling our planet's health as well as our own.Throughout the book, it's hooks's personal revelations that make what she says credible and that especially strike a chord in me. I found in her a sister spirit. Just my age, she could be describing my relationship history when she describes her own. And herein lies my biggest quibble with the book: wishing to avoid the kind of disappointments in relationships with men I've had in the past, I want to believe that I can find satisfying love with a male, but the many generalizations hooks makes about men in our culture make me wonder. I fear she may be right when she says that "most men feel that they receive love and therefore know what it feels like to be loved; women often feel we are in a constant state of yearning, wanting love but not receiving it" (p. xx).According to hooks, many, if not most, men under patriarchy tell lies "to avoid confrontation or taking responsibility for inappropriate behavior" (p. 36), "use psychological terrorism as a way to subordinate women" (p. 41), "are especially inclined to see love as something they should receive without expending effort . . . . [and] do not want to do the work that love demands" (p. 114), are usually prevented by sexist thinking from "acknowledging their longing for love or their acceptance of a female as their guide on love's path" (p. 156), "are convinced that their erotic longing indicates who they should, and can, love . . . . [and] tend to be more concerned about sexual performance and sexual satisfaction than whether they are capable of giving and receiving love" (pp. 174, 176), and "choose relationships in which they can be emotionally withholding when they feel like it but still receive love from someone else. . . . [and ultimately] choose power over love" (p. 187). Hmmm. Men, what do you say to this? Can you deny it?"Profound changes in the way we think and act must take place if we are to create a loving culture," writes hooks. I, for one, would welcome those changes and am working on making them in myself. Despite being marred by unfortunate typos ("Living by a Love Ethnic" [viii], "perfect love casts our fear" [220]), this is a courageous and important book that should be read widely and taken to heart.

If you are truly wanting to question love and deeply ponder on it. Read this book! It opened my mind and heart to questions I was not even considering.

Interesante y entretenido

All her books are easy to understand and get the message. She is an excellent author, and this book gives us an insight into what it is to be loving to someone, and that is, above all, a choice we make every day. According to bell hooks, it is both an intention and an action.It is comforting to see a book that writes about love further than just the perspective of romantic love; she talks about our family, friendship and community.

O amor do ponto de vista científico. Não sabia que era possível e bell hooks fez isso da forma mais didática possível

It covers a lot of aspects of love, I highly recommend this book.

Bell hooks at her best