Perfect Love, Imperfect Relationships: Healing the Wound of the Heart

Yet to receive my copy and read it..... Heard its a good book... Reviews were great,so I ordered it....

The practices contained in this book bring the reader into a natural state of grace, spoken of by the sages, by discovering our core essence which is actually the love we have been seeking externally from others, but that actually dwells inherit in the heart of us all. Many authors brush upon this concept, but rarely does an author show you a direct pathway to experiencing the miracle that is the love we have always sought, dwelling at our very core. John Welwood has written a wonderful book filled with ways of reconnecting with this feeling of inner love that is in fact the very nature of who we are. If even one percent of humanity were to discover this practice, we'll be well on the way to a more loving, harmonious world. I'm recommending this book to everyone I know!!!

This book is so terrific that I don't know how to begin to do it justice -- but I'll try! Many things I could say about it are paradoxes: * It's gentle, and yet it encourages the reader to undertake some pretty challenging exercises. * It acknowledges our wounds -- how our parents stuffed us up, etc. -- and yet it shows the way through that pain to the appreciation and joy waiting beyond the pain. * It shares enough theory to provide an intellectual understanding of how the human (flawed) side of us is created, yet it also shares at a practical level that helps us to tap into our feelings and, through them, to reach the spiritual dimension (perfect love) that's the ground of our being. * It uses everyday English rather than psychological or religious jargon. * I believe people of diverse backgrounds could enjoy this book, whether they approach it from a secular, Christian, Buddhist or whatever other point of view. Welwood shares details of his own challenges, e.g., in his relationship with his mother, and also case histories of clients in his practice as a psychologist. The stories provide tangible examples that illustrate relevant points. The personal anecdotes convey the impression that he isn't setting himself up as the know-it-all expert lecturing us ignorant minions, but humbly admits to living in the trenches of life himself. This book has helped me to make a giant leap in accepting myself and having compassion towards myself, in short, loving myself. There has been a corresponding expansion in the sense of compassion I feel towards other people and therefore acceptance of them as they are.

One of the best books on relationships and relating I have read. Not being familiar with the author I was debating about the necessity of acquiring his previous work "Love and Awakening" but this book works fine as a stand alone. It provides useful exercises at the conclusion of each chapter which can be done either alone or with a willing partner. His capacity to integrate western psychology with eastern spiritual teachings is refreshing. This is not a "how to fix your marriage" guide. Rather, it is a precious tool for deep emotional healing, regardless of your current relationship status.

best for learning to deal with hurting feelings! simple mindfulness awareness techniques combined with a lot of empathy and selflove. John Welwood also writes very empathetic. Simply one of my my most important books ever to get peace in my heart!

La lectura y análisis de este libro me parece muy recomendable para cualquier persona que desee crecer como tal, curando la herida del corazón, que hace que no nos consideremos merecedores de ser amados