The Breakup Bible: The Smart Woman's Guide to Healing from a Breakup or Divorce Paperback – December 27, 2011

After the painful demise of a long relationship, I went through many books—bound and ebooks both—along with numerous websites and youtube talks. I did all the recommended things, like "no contact" and getting rid of reminders of my ex around my home. I worked hard at recovering, yet months after the breakup, I was still having a terrible time moving forward and I felt stuck in a state of despair and depression. Finally, completely by chance, I heard about "The Breakup Bible" and ordered it. It has been the greatest help ever and I cannot recommend it highly enough. Now I know why my ex and I broke up, and also why I have had such a hard time recovering from the breakup. I am still rereading parts of the book, primarily Part II, the section on Understanding, and this is the information that is changing my life. In fact, I am going to pursue more understanding of "attachment theory," as it relates to me, with a therapist versed in the theory, because it rang so true for me. I realized that every partner I have ever picked has had a version of the same issue, clear back to my first (and only) marriage. It wasn't apparent to me until now, because each version was so different (there are many, many ways to abandon someone, including things like the silent treatment, getting drunk, and actually walking out, to name a few). I don't want to repeat my lifelong selection of partners ever again, and I am grateful to have finally gotten some real and useful information, instead of all the fluff that is floating around.I found the book to be well written and easy to read, and it was also somehow comforting and gentle while presenting hard truths. I believe it will help you whether you had a breakup or a divorce, and whether you have children or not. Good luck to you!

I had seen this book years ago , but when my friend got dumped for a younger woman after 2 kids, and 30 years of marriage I got this book in the hopes she would get through the break up. It HELPED!!!! she quoted things out of its pages and provided her with an outlet for her pain. Thank you

I bought this along with Getting Past Your Breakup; I should probably be going to therapy, but these were MUCH less expensive. I've got to say, they have been the key instruments in being able to finally process, in a healthy manner, the emotions of divorce (in my case). They AREN'T a therapist, but they come close - you may be surprised (I was). So, this book specifically was slightly more my favorite; the stories, the tidbits of wisdom, and pieces of insight resonated slightly more than the other book. That being said, I am glad I bought the other book for the sometimes frustrating gaps in structure, and 'hows' of what the author was suggesting you do at particular points. Plus, the slightly different views of taking stock of your life helped get the most out of processing emotions.

It was a good read, good advice

This book is great as a guide to any healthy relationship.I originally bought it after a particularly rough break up, but I stopped reading after the first few chapters (I wasn't ready for change at that point in my life). I revisited it a few times after that for practical use in every day friendships, decorating advice...etc, and I eventually forgot about the book until I moved a few years ago.Though I wasn't in a relationship at the time, I decided to read the book in its entirety. Since I had extra time on my hands with no relationship to put energy into, I focused on the activities Sussman outlined. I was skeptical at first, but I felt good after doing the preliminary tasks. As I kept working through the assignments, I noticed that my relationships with friends and family began to improve. I was able to forgive a family member for the abuse I endured growing up (a truly priceless gift), I was able to move forward in my career, and I was able to find joy in more meaningful relationships. I began to steer clear of "bad news boys" (I had previously dated alcoholics, addicts, incarcerated men, people twice my age...etc), and started seeing everyone in a clearer, healthier way.A few months after finishing my journey through the book, I met my significant other. While part of this was attributed to the right time and place in both of our lives, a huge piece was that I'd grown immensely from doing the work in this book. I was able to reap the benefits from Sussman's guidance.I highly recommend this book for anyone ready to break the patterns of unrequited, potentially toxic love. More importantly, however, I recommend this book for anyone who is interested in healing and repairing damaged relationships, and anyone who is excited to grow their friend base in a healthy and robust way.

I feel so fortunate to have come upon Rachel Sussman's " The Break Up Bible" in searching for guidance with a recent break up. This book is a step-by-step guide to recovery and transformation after the demise of a romantic relationship. It is clearly written, well organized, insightful, compassionate and is my daily companion as I go through this painful process.Having looked at other books on the market, I respectfully disagree with Jazzgirl's review and negative comparison with Susan Elliot's book. The Breaupk Bible is down to earth, totally common sensical, encouraging and optimistic. It's given me hope for my future and understanding of where I have been and where I am going.Thank You, Rachel Sussman!

Good book! Worth the read!

I purchased two books to get over my break up. After the first amazing one ("it's called break up because it's broken"), this one was not so easy to read. First 30 pages got me disappointed so I wrote a ling negative review. But I continued reading and my opinion completely changed. There were so many good advices. I saw them in some other books, but Rachel made them easier to understand. I deleted my negative review. The book is truly my break up bible now.

love it, really helped me to get over my ex from the beginning of the book :)

Through this book, Rachel Sussman (the author) acts as a gentle and wise friend who walks with you in your healing journey from a break-up. Using examples from break-up experiences of many real women (including the author herself), she validates your own break-up experience and makes you feel like you're not alone. She comforts you in the midst of your difficult emotions and also gently guides you, step-by-step, towards the goal of recovery, strength and happiness. I highly, strongly recommend this book if you are having a difficult time with your break-up.

Bought it for my niece......she smiled.....and loved it...thank you amazon....like a plaster!