It's Just a F***ing Date

I can tell that this book was written a while ago just from some of the content. There are some seriously cringeworthy bits, and of course the expected heteronormative content, but overall it’s pretty solid advice and the fact that it’s delivered with great humour makes it more palatable.I think if you can look past the little things, this book offers great perspectives of how to date and how to lighten up about it. You don’t have to marry the person. It’s just a (redacted) date!

I first fell in love with Greg & Amiira when I read their (life changing) book, He's Just Not That Into You. I guess if you've been living under a rock, there's a possibility you've never heard of that book. It's incredible & is a must read. (I will be re-reading He's Just Not That Into You soon & will post an official review on this site in the future.) So when I heard they had written another book, it really didn't matter to me what it was about, I knew I wanted to read it.Well, turns out I *needed* to read this book. As a woman who is guilty of being too available, accepting invitations to "hang out", cancelling plans (or WORSE not making plans in HOPES I will get asked to "hang out"), I needed a game plan on how to start dating.At the end of each principle, there are exercises, which are super fun and helpful, if you do them. I highly recommend you do them. I started a file on my Google drive (because I could access it from anywhere FTW), and have done most of the exercises for each chapter. I plan on going back, and filling them in even more.This book is super easy to read, and just like He's Just Not That Into You, is written in a humorous manner. Both Greg and Amiira share stories from their dating lives, which really gives the book an even more personal touch, and gives them even more credibility. (As if, after writing He's Just Not That Into You, they needed any more credibility.) There is a question & answer section in each chapter, a section on showing people getting a principle very right (or very wrong), and a section on closing any dating loopholes. They have covered everything.I absolutely love this book! I 100% recommend it to everybody who is single! If you are looking to find the person who is into you, then stop accepting hang outs and get back to dating. (And as Greg and Amiira say, if all you are looking for is a hook up &/or a hang out, then go on with your bad self! But come back to this book when you are ready for more!)For my complete review: www.50blinddates.com

Simple, obvious advice, but written in a very funny and easy to read manner. It was obvious to me, but by the questions in the book, not obvious to others that going home from the pub with someone does not a relationship make. Not having your own life or being too needy. This seems basic to me, but maybe someone needs to hear it. I gave it four stars because the advice is marginal for me, but it is a funny book. I did like the way it says to not make a date an interview and to have fun and just get over it. A good reminder.

Let me start with the disclaimer: I'm a man that's been happily married for almost 15 years. I didn't buy this book because I needed dating advice, I bought it because I'm a fan of Greg Behrendt's comedic work. I read it with a fairly critical and skeptical eye, given that I don't have much use for dating tips at this point in my life.However, this book offers some very important advice that applies to both dating and life in general, and it's advice that many people have a hard time taking. When I was younger, I went through many of the exact same troubles described in this book - after a long-term relationship broke up, I couldn't attract the kind of women I was interested in, couldn't keep them interested when I did, and got to the brink of giving up hope for a relationship at all. And that's where some of the key advice that this book hammers home comes in.That advice, in a nutshell, is that you can't expect potential partners to beat down your door until YOU are comfortable with your OWN self. A lot of my dating in my 20s was spent in a frenzy of desperation, loneliness and self-doubt. It wasn't until I finally realized that I needed to get my head straight and have a life on my own that I found that women were suddenly finding me interesting, and ready to "mess up my life with their love" as the book puts it. I think this is brilliant advice for life in general - a lot of us go through life trying to live up to some artificial ideal, always pushing for what we think our life is supposed to look like based on unrealistic social and media-driven expectations, and never finding real happiness.Much of the book deals with the realities of dating in the modern world, which includes mourning the dying art of actual dating and trying to remind the reader what a "date" is all about - learning a bit about each other while engaging in some activity together. The book takes a fairly dim view of how technology (i.e., texting) has affected dating, and while some might say "that's how young people do it these days," I agree with Greg and Amiira, young people do a crappy job of dating, which is why they seem to be pretty bad at relationships in general.

If you don't have an open mind and can't possibly believe you aren't doing anything wrong, then don't buy this book because it is eye opening and makes you think twice. It helped me and a couple friends including a male friend.

Voilà le livre qui m'a permis de grandir dans ma façon de voir les premiers rendez-vous. Et comme seul Greg peut le faire, il nous fait comprendre que ce n'est qu'un p***** de rendez-vous, pas une demande en mariage. Tout le monde devait être au courant de ce fait sauf moi mais maintenant je peux enfin dire oui à un homme sans me sentir obligée de passer les 20 prochaines années avec lui mais surtout je peux aussi lui dire que je n'ai pas envie de le revoir car notre rendez-vous n'était qu'un p***** de rendez-vous et que c'est le jeu. A lire absolument par toutes les célibataires qui n'arrivent pas à trouver chaussure à leur pied. Le problème est en nous...

J'ai adoré ce livre, léger, drôle, nous rappelle l'important.Super livre, comme les autres de Greg Behrendt!

Some excellent insights in to the male/female mind. If someone is telling you who they are, you should listen.I wish humans could just be real with each other, but until then, this is a handy guide for interpretation. I don't necessarily agree with all the advice, but some of it will likely be put to good use.

Worth checking his stuff out