Dealing with the CrazyMakers in Your Life: Setting Boundaries on Unhealthy Relationships

Be Prepared for the Christian references which is not at all bad but just as an awareness. The book is 90% identifying crazy makers and does that very well. As for how to best handle dealing with them, that left me unsatisfied. The book is mostly about family members so not very helpful with coworkers and neighbors. I decided keeping my distance is my only solution.

I have read a few of these types of books and this one stands out in a few strange ways. The author shares his own experiences of ways he failed to deal well with difficult people and the things he learned along the way. It's very down to earth and quick to get to the point. Besides that, I don't think I have come across advice quite like this before, and it feels completely right to me. One thing I am taking from this will be the part about what people get out of getting the reaction out of you that makes you feel stupid and crazy. They want you to DANCE to their crazy tune -how to look out for that and be ready for it. I will be using this advice every day. It is presented in a way that made it feel like you were getting really good advice from a wise and truly kind friend.Another reviewer mentioned the christian perspective, and i wanted to say something about it it too. I am not a Christian but I was raised in a very religious Christian family and environment and I am an atheist now. Normally I would not have been able to stomach so much preaching and would have written the book off quickly, but the advice seemed too valuable to let that get in the way. Maybe there should have been something about that in the book description, but I probably would have passed it up if it had.

For years I have struggled to know how to deal with people who constantly drive me crazy with their behavior. This book identifies those people into basic types, clearly spells out their behavior and offers up ways to deal with them effectively. I must admit that I need to go back and read the book again to digest all of these things so I can put into use the strategies the author poses, because my first read was so engrossing that I got through it too fast to really remember everything it spells out. My family has been the primary crazy makers in my life, so this book is going to be my survival guide in learning how to set boundaries, take back my life, and be in control instead of allowing the crazy makers to keep me constantly off balance. Written in easy to understand language and also from a Christian perspective, I found this book very insightful and thought provoking. The author also helps the reader to understand ineffective ways of responding to those who drive us crazy and offers up effective new ways to deal with these situations that gives back the sanity and sense of balance we need in our lives.

Excellent book! Really hit home and helped me in my journey. Good therapy if you have a crazy-maker in your life And helps coping with the aftermath

This book is insightful and will guide you toward resolution of difficult people in your life and the games they play with you, for their benefit. Life is challenging enough without having to sidestep people who are neurotics with agendas that destroy rather than build you up. I liked the conversational style the psychologist Dr. David Hawkins uses at the beginning of the book to ease his way into the "gold" -- the issues and tissues stuff. He writes frankly, from years of psychotherapy experience as well as experiences freely shared from his own life confrontations. At first I thought "I" was at fault. Now I realize in many instances I was merely a sounding board for difficult people, crazy making people, to fixate on my kind nature and listening ear. It's refreshing to know that I can now manage to deactivate interpersonal games quickly and without "trauma drama." If you are tired of being a victim of the infantile narcissist, grab an herbal and this book. You are in for quite a journey toward mental health...with or without Toto at your side.

I read this book when it first came out and it really changed my entire life. I have used these lessons many times over the course of my professional career and was able to save my sanity. I recently bought this again for someone else who has been trying to talk sane to crazy and wondering why it isn't working. He just started reading it and said he was hooked. From the get go, it blew his mind the way it was describing what he was going through. He didn't even get to the really good parts yet. I am so thankful this book was written.

For a very long time I have been upset with how a difficult person in the family treats me. This individual is often rude to me and it is usually done when no one else is around.I am writing this review after the Christmas holidays, where once again this person upset me by their rude behavior. My loving sister gave me very good advice - stop being a victim. She said that I play a role in how people treat me. So, I found this book on Amazon and the advice from Dr. David Hawkins will help me set goals and boundaries with this individual. I have decided to end the relationship and move on and enjoy my life. I have family and friends who are good to me. This person can find someone else as the target for their own unhappiness.

This book just doesn't have enough information in it to truly educate, gam the skills you are lacking and would benefit from when experiencing difficult interactions, it doesn't have enough if the specific details someone needs in their arsenal when they are dealing with for example, someone so personality disorder, a verbally abusive coworker that doesn't respond to the back off tactics most people would use, someone who makes your days at work miserable. Those kind of people require 1. You to use extreme caution I how you talk to them and behave because they are mentally unstable amd that makes the situation almost impossible to correct. You cam navigate it with specific skills but they will never change.

Some really helpful categories to understand and navigate emotional abuse: the sufferer, the control freak, etc. I did find the content a bit repetitive and diffuse. Overall a worthwhile read. Dr. David Hawkins is an expert in this area and has helped me a lot.

This book is excellent. I learned a great deal about a member of my family who is borderline and also about myself. I am learning how to avoid getting drawn into decades-old arguments . I know how to end a conversation that has no purpose other than to create chaos. I know how to back away without feeling guilt. Already other family members are interested in purchasing this book . I'm so grateful that the author, Dr. Hawkins, chose to share his knowlege with the world. This book is tool to help you understand the Crazymakers in your life and you will want to share it with others!

It wasn't what I was looking for. I bought it by accident because it has the same name as another author I like.

Our counsellors highly recommend it.

I have several books from this author. He is clearly very knowledgeable and his books have saved me from time to time. This book did have some good examples of crazy makers and how to deal with them. I would have hope for more depth however, as some of the crazy maker personalities can be so toxic and dangerous. This book did not quite go into that side of it as much as I would have liked. However, it was very enjoyable to read and some of the stories were brilliant. I know this author is religious and often mentions scriptures in all of his books, which I find interesting and do not mind at all however, I did think they were overdone is this particular book, with something on almost every page. This was slightly annoying for a spiritual but non religious person like me. All in all a good book but not as good as some of his others.