Simply Feminine: Surprising Insights from Men

When compared to the number of books that I read per year it can honestly be said that I rarely critique them however I feel I would be remiss were I not to take a few moments to comment on Morgan Wonderly and her book, Simply Feminine. I’ll start by recognizing Ms Wonderly’s distinction as the only “femininity coach” for women and just say that it is a truly sad state of affairs when it has become necessary for someone to coach women in [what can only be recognized in this age as] the art of being a woman. Fortunately, as Ms Wonderly indicates, the kernel of femininity lies waiting within every woman so her job, as I understand it, is to help women get in touch with that part of themselves that they [would] normally instinctively follow were they only willing or able to listen to their hearts and follow their intuition instead of having it drowned out by the raucous din of the dying movement that is today called feminism. What’s more, it is discouraging to recognize that prior to Simply Feminine I can think of no book written by a woman for women that has so astutely captured and understood men and that has beckoned to male readers as indicated by the number of reviews submitted by men who have read her work. My discouragement arises from my wondering if Ms Wonderly might be the only female author still writing who understands both men and women and believes they are capable of salvaging the wrecks that are relationships between the sexes today. This, coupled with the fact that she dares to so completely buck the PC brigade in order to be true to herself [in this millennium, no less!] makes her, in my opinion, not only a genuinely strong and [therefore] truly unique woman without parallel in our culture today but a true supporter of the rights of women to look into their own hearts and find the truth of who they are and the strength of women to follow what they see when they find it. So much of the appeal of her writing for me stems from her obvious respect for and understanding of men while, at the same time, gently (far more so than any author I’ve ever read) correcting misguided notions of our hyper-pc culture for anyone who has the courage to hear her. There is no slandering, belittling or back-stabbing to be found in Simply Feminine. No bitching, nagging or whining. And so her approach displays a tact rarely encountered in our present no-holds-barred “trigger warning” culture again, illuminating her exceptional understanding of what it means to be an authentically strong woman. I can sincerely say that Simply Feminine is not only the best book I’ve read this year but also, undoubtedly, the most important and inspirational and I plan to read it again within the next few days. I believe it is an important book because her message is both universal and timely and it is the only volume I’ve ever seen or read that accomplishes what it has without relying on any sort of religious foundation. Ms Wonderly’s reliance on the natural, observable order of life has made her writing a rare treat that can compliment both the beliefs of a religious persuasion as well as those with a less deistic perspective on life. Regarding inspiration, there is no other word that comes to mind when I consider the hope that Ms Wonderly offers those [of us] who may have given up hope that femininity is anything but a relic of [better] times gone by. In short, this book nails it. Consistently. Chapter after chapter. Every time.

This book is definitely scratching the surface but it’s a great introduction. Earlier this year, I had a bad breakup and I was sick of wasting time dating. I took a break and started doing research to see where or if I could improve. I stumbled across this based on the suggestions Amazon gives from my browsing history. After reading this I realize I was already a very feminine woman compared to other women I know; my problem was in the conflict/communication section. Growing up, I was always taught to be more aggressive in disagreements and I realized that it's an ineffective way to handle male/female issues. The goal is not to go to war, right? This book doesn’t quite address conflict resolution or feminine communication in full details but now that I’ve read this, I understand I need to dig a little deeper for my own healing/growth. Use this as a starter and then go from there. What you can expect is a simple outline of how men feel about women and their femininity, why being feminine is important, what men need to be more masculine and how we can provide it for them and what being feminine looks like from a very basic level. She offers some suggestions and tips... It's in no way a book that goes against the Feminist Movement and it does not suggest that being feminine is synonymous to being less than a man. Read it - it's a quick read. You might be surprised by what's inside.

I enjoyed this book and what it brought to the table. I will say if you are not a positive person and you have trust issues with men, this book is going to go through one ear and right out the other. The book captures a mindset to help women win with masculine men and to show you what they like and what you can do pull a man in closer. I will have to say it provides a start, but there is a lot more to uncover. I would read this book in addition to "Getting to I Do", for a more complete picture of the masculine man and feminine woman and why they are complimentary. I enjoyed her journal questions at the end of the chapter. And most of them were easy for me, until I got to Chapter 6, "What Men Need From Us". As I attempted to answer the questions I quickly found this was an area I was lacking in. So I do believe no matter how feminine or experienced you feel you are with men, you can still learn something important from this book. She also has reference lists in the back that I found very helpful as well. Things like : 1. Ways we emasculate men 2. What men we should not date 3. How to show a man appreciation and much more. This book is a great start if you have worked through your pain and doubt and you are ready to get into your feminine!

Morgan Wonderly has written a must read book for every woman and man interested in attracting and keeping people of the opposite sex in their lives. After spending much of the last 25 years dealing only with women, Ms. Wonderly has spent the last several years interviewing and listening to men talk about what they find appealing in a woman. Her conclusion is that as society evolved to enhance the rights and roles of women it gave out the message that in order to be equal with men, woman had to give up their femininity and be more like men. Ms. Wonderly’s research has led her to believe that “Women Make Lousy Men.” And that men want, and need, women to be women. Different but not less. For it is the strongly contrasting masculine/feminine energies that draw each toward the other. And when united the feminine and masculine energies are complementary and equal, forming a whole greater than the sum of its parts. And this is true in love and in life. In her interviews Ms. Wonderly was told that most men are attracted to a woman if her attitudes and her appearance are “feminine”. This encompasses attributes like softness, warmth, sensuality, beauty and the use of color. These attributes are expanded upon in various chapters of the book. What was new was the discovery that women’s attitudes about men impacted the men’s perception of their own masculinity, which in turn impacted their view of a woman’s femininity. Above all, the research indicates, is that a man wants to be admired by his woman for his masculine traits. These can include character, bravery, honor, trustworthiness, stability, perseverance, intelligence, leadership, steadfastness, competence and contributions to society. And since men are not as good as women at intuiting feelings, women have to express this admiration through actions—a kiss, a caress, a look of gratitude, a thank you for doing what you do for us. This in turn makes the woman appear to be more feminine. Indeed Ms. Wonderly’s research leads her to believe that admiration for her man’s behavior and attitudes is the most important thing that a woman can give to a man—even more important than sex. Review by Harvey Rowen (Mr. Rowen is the former President of the Merrill Lynch Trust Company, and of the Charles Schwab Trust Company, where he employed many women who were both highly feminine and highly competent)

An eye-opening book for sure! Morgan's book was a life changer for me, completely revamping and expanding my perspective on femininity! Coming from the 60's "burn your bra" feminist era, I had shut down most of my femininity, perceiving it as a weakness, and a roadblock to true success! And I negatively judged any woman who seemed to easily and openly express that part of herself. As it turns out I could not have been further from the truth. Full on femininity may not be for all women. Just as full on masculinity is not for all men. We are all different and have our own unique ways of expressing our authentic selves. But in delving into the insights and wisdom contained in this book, it became clear to me that my essence is deeply feminine, and I had buried it for far too long! And when I express it, I feel powerful, capable of tremendous success, and fully able to love deeply from my compassionate feminine center. It feels so freeing! Any woman can benefit from reading this book...and using the guidelines contained throughout as a way of exploring her own femininity and determining just exactly what relates to her soul specifically. Thank you Ms Wonderly for immersing yourself in a decade of research in order to compile such an in depth, yet easy to read, book of unexpected and truly enlightening insights from the men who love, cherish, respect and adore our feminine selves.

I had the honor to meet author Morgan Wonderly about a year ago and as she mentioned about her book, ″Simply Feminine: Surprising Insights from men″, I was really intrigued. What really surprised me was when she said: "Do you know that what men like most about women is our smile". No I didn't know that! So I asked what else, and she started telling me some more anecdotes. After our conversation, I was sold. I wanted to know more. So when I got the chance to ready Morgan's book, I devoured it in no time. If you've been looking for that special someone that will go to the moon and back for you and yet, you don't seem to find him anywhere, read this book. It will give you insights that will make you see men from a different perspective. Let's face it, our main goal in life is to be happy. So if for you happiness means you wish to be with a man, remember, what you focus on expand. If you focus on seeing men's kindness, you will attract gentlemen. If you think men are "unkind" you will attract unkind men. Thank you Morgan for taking the time to interview these men and putting together this very nice, well written, easy to read book. I truly love your work and the message within. Big Loving Hug!

First off I am male and I overheard a friend talking about this book and it sounded very inticing. Upon receiving this very girly book which I felt a little self conscious carrying around, I dove right in and began reading it one chapter at a time. I was quickly amazed on how spot on the author was in her telling women of what men are looking for. Once I was up to the chapter on Men's Needs I was sold on this book as being a manual on how to better understand what I like in women. This book is not just for women to better understand effective ways to treat and be appreciated by men, but also a great reminder for men on how to look for and treat a lady. I could always easily state what I did not want in a woman I date but after reading this book I now understand and instead can articulate what I am looking for and needing in a woman. I highly recommend this book to better understand the dynamics in a typical relationship and taken to heart will improve your current and future relationships. It's full of great topics, quotes, tips, anecdotes, and thought provoking questions, taken to heart it will improve your life. Happy reading.

I never thought I would ever order and read a book about femininity, boy was I surprised. The author explains in detail how the interaction between men and women in a relationship can be enhanced by understanding the natural way humans were programed to survive. There is a very good reason why men and women think differently. I wish knew and understood this content years ago. I think that if enough couples sit down and read it together it would put a few divorce lawyers out of business. The book was well written, very informative and I enjoyed reading every page and most important it made me THINK. I know that I will be a much better partner, companion, husband and lover in the future.

Hab diese Buch recht schnell gelesen, da auch ich eher sehr unabhängig auftrete. Es ist sehr gut geschrieben und ich würde noch empfehlen es mehr als einmal zu lesen für maximalen Erfolg

Highly practical with advice and journaling. I read this with my partner and he loved knowing we could practice these tips together, we will both benefit from this book. Thank you

Loved this book! Very informative and helpful. I would recommend to all women who are seeking to embrace their femininity.

Allows women to rest a little, enabling men to express their strength, and room to provide and protect. I really enjoyed this book. The resting also helped me to feel more cheerful. We don’t have to prove we’re better at everything. Let the guys have some success and admiration. The advice works like magic and I can’t even fully explain it.

Very light to read and with loads of interest insights! Definitely a must read for every eons of every age!