10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do To Improve Their Lives

Frequently, "how to" books are really "how not to." This is not true here! Each chapter has a focus and is richly detailed with people and examples that support each concept and process introduced. Because he shares actual vignettes from his life, these become believable. Because he is also a gay man, this makes his advice valuable. If people are looking for punishment, reasons to deny their sexuality, or ways to reinforce their intolerance, this is not the book for them. This author is a middle aged man who has captured many of the emerging issues that are associated with aging gay men, a perspective I was actively seeking. He paints a clear picture of life: the great, the not so great, and the muck and mire. Nonetheless, his optimism encourages readers to make better choices in those circumstances they can, and to accept those things they cannot change. He provides us with some wisdom to know the difference between both. This book has been of help to me and for this, I am grateful.

Let's be real, this title blows. It's awful. However, even as a gay guy who came out at 17 and had been out well over a decade this book has concrete and relevant advice. From figuring out why I'm always dating Mr. Wrong to why I still sometimes feel uncomfortable being gay, this book is real advice for real gay guys in the 21st century.

It’s worth reading - there’s a lot that interprets people’s problems as all related to childhood. No doubt that’s the case for many people, but I’m skeptical it explains behaviors as much as implied here. In any, I’m not an expert and I’m grateful for the wisdom in this book.

I would recommend this book to everyone, both gay and straight. It’s extremely insightful and a true guide to understanding the struggles of gay individuals coupled or single. It is an easy read and shares a great wealth of resources.

Spectacularly enlightening. A big THANK YOU to Joe Kort and anyone else who helped him make this book a possibility. So many lessons on psychology to help any gay man down the path to healing, empathy and personal growth, exploration and understanding.

This is a very real, honest, direct approach to understanding yourself and what it means to become comfortable.in your own skin.

Read this book if you want to live life fully. At bit simple at times, but full of relevant insights. Well organized. Both gay and hetro communities owe Mr. Kort a debt of gratitude.

It was really interesting reading this book, I have followed some of the basic steps mentioned here as I just came out and still learning. Hopefully I will find someone to share my experiences and life with as the author. Thanks for such a good manual.

First off this book is very easy to read and the ten smart things in the title are pretty much common sense. If I'd come across this book 20-years ago before I came out I think it would have been much more beneficial. As it stands there wasn't anything in it I didn't already know, but it's good to refresh your thinking from time to time.

Very good book . I would buy this book again and truly recommend it to gay people trying to improve their lives. I had a Fast delivery and nice communication with the seller!

Great read to understand yourself even when you think you have a good handle on yourself..... you can't lose by educating yourself!

This book is a must read. It’s eye opening and heart warming at times thanks to Dr Joe Kurt’s passion and experience as an LGBT therapist. True to its title, it really does give solid advice on how any gay man can improve his life. My favourite parts are the real life examples Joe gives to illustrate his key points. This brings the advice to life and provides a deeper understanding. This book has improved my life just from reading it.

At first I dismissed this book as just another phoney self help book, but I was at such a major crossroad of my life with meaningless sex aplenty, no stable relationships, internal homophobia that I decided to take a chance and buy this book, and what a revelatory book this turned out to be. I have learnt so much about overcoming my internal homophobia, and lessons and advice to forming long lasting gay relationships. Dr Joe Kort writes passionately from an objective point of view and with a spirit and desire of seeing all gays live fulfilling and accomplished lives free of unnecessary emotional baggage. Set aside the hook up apps for a while guys and invest in this gem of a book.