How to Listen with Intention: The Foundation of True Connection, Communication, and Relationships (How to be More Likable and Charismatic)

A great short book to learn a few tips of listening. It’s full of meaningful and concise points for those trying to work on their attention span and listening skills.

This book did a great job in explaining core concepts of building solid interactions with people. I would sometimes wonder why some interactions that I had with people that I had just met were extremely successful, while others were the picture of utter disaster. Well, I did not realize my listening style and frames (explained in this book) was not matching that of the person I was communicating with, when it was an unsuccessful interaction. That equates and equated to a bad conversation or an unsuccessful interaction. The book kept my attention and was entertaining while being extremely helpful. I will definitely read more from the author. 10 for 10 if you are trying to level up your experience with people, and understand people better.

I haven’t completed the book yet so I still have time to change my review. However, I wanted to say that in reading this book so far, I truly appreciate the challenges, the knowledge, the different listening styles. I have learned a lot about different styles of listening in just a short time. The only reason I can’t give this 5 stars is that I’ve already noted a typo - which makes me feel that it maybe wasn’t edited? Or edited well by another person. I know proofreading your own is helpful, but I have read and reread sections in this book because the typo really threw me off, or, because it just needed a little bit more intention when reading to make full sense. On a positive note, I have also reread some things I felt were worth repeating to myself to make sure I really grasp fully what King is saying. I have found things in this book so far that are great concepts and will be finishing the book. I just think a book with such beneficial information could have had more attention to detail…

Great read, it was an easy way to learn and apply listening skills. Definitely learned a great a,out of information,

Make it the one book you read this year. There has never been greater benefit than mastery of a skill to be a good person and being a great listener is a great start. Patrick King’s writing is simple, succinct and more importantly easy to digest. I’ve moved onto his 2nd book “ Train Your Empathy. I believe he’s got 41 of those books and I’ve ordered total 6 after much careful selection. “ How to listen with intention “ covers the same well-known concept yet it’s distilled down to Real conversation and an alternative to go both ways. Decide, make it your first step toward a good person and embracing this lifelong skill to be an intentional conversationalist. Decide, to be a good person— not merely words but in action!

This has book has helped put alot of things into perspective and helped me find better connet with the people on my life.

I appreciated the categorizes and types of listening. How to listen critically and actively. its makes a good note to check your ego while talking to others and how to be a little bit more humble in a conversation. But there is one lurking danger the author doesn't really address and it bothers me. The author almost never talks about disagreeing as the listener. (He does in a couple sentences but does not cover it well) He talks about empathetic listening and being an active listener. Which is good and I agree. What happens though when you begin to actively listen with most people you have a conversation with? We subject ourselves to everyone's ideas when we listen to them. If we are more critical and active as listeners you can be sure to receive that information much clearer than "pretend listening". Not only that but the author suggests that we should almost code switch and agree to validate someone's feelings just so we can be better listeners. I fundamentally disagree with this too much. Just because someone feels a certain way does not mean I must validate that feeling. This book seems as if it is people pleasing rather than having a little more technique. However the techniques that are presented in the first half of the book I find refreshing.

The author carefully lays out the various types and levels of listening. There are good examples that clarify the strengths and advantages of the highest levels of listening. At the end of the book is a brief synopsis of the main points of each chapter.