--- product_id: 603708016 title: "It's Not You: An Essential Self Help Book on Emotional Abuse Recovery, Setting Boundaries, Healing and Reclaiming Your Life: How to Identify and Heal from NARCISSISTIC People" price: "$20.18" currency: USD in_stock: true reviews_count: 13 url: https://www.desertcart.us/products/603708016-its-not-you-an-essential-self-help-book-on-emotional store_origin: US region: United States of America --- # It's Not You: An Essential Self Help Book on Emotional Abuse Recovery, Setting Boundaries, Healing and Reclaiming Your Life: How to Identify and Heal from NARCISSISTIC People **Price:** $20.18 **Availability:** ✅ In Stock ## Quick Answers - **What is this?** It's Not You: An Essential Self Help Book on Emotional Abuse Recovery, Setting Boundaries, Healing and Reclaiming Your Life: How to Identify and Heal from NARCISSISTIC People - **How much does it cost?** $20.18 with free shipping - **Is it available?** Yes, in stock and ready to ship - **Where can I buy it?** [www.desertcart.us](https://www.desertcart.us/products/603708016-its-not-you-an-essential-self-help-book-on-emotional) ## Best For - Customers looking for quality international products ## Why This Product - Free international shipping included - Worldwide delivery with tracking - 15-day hassle-free returns ## Description INSTANT NEW YORK TIMES AND SUNDAY TIMES BESTSELLER “A compassionate road map and survival guide for people in narcissistic relationships...” ―Jay Shetty From clinical psychologist and expert in narcissistic relationships Dr Ramani Durvasula, a guide to protecting and healing yourself from the daily harms of narcissism REDISCOVER WHO YOU ARE AFTER YEARS OF INVALIDATION Dealing with a narcissist is hard. One day their confidence and charisma pull you in, the next day they gaslight, wreck your self-confidence, and leave you wondering what you could have done differently. Clinical Psychologist and narcissism expert Dr Ramani is here to help. Drawing on more than 20 years of studying, teaching and helping people navigate the challenging landscape of narcissism, you’ll learn how to: Spot the tell-tale signs of a narcissist Confront toxic cycles Protect your energy Create realistic boundaries Reclaim and embrace your true self Packed with expert tips and detailed advice, this book will equip you with the tools to stop blaming yourself, regain your power, heal, and take back your life. Review: Especially for DYSFUNCTIONAL FAMILIES - People with dysfunctional families must read this book. A one stop place for all your questions about partiality between siblings and much more. Thought this book deals with narcissism in family in a superficial level, this will be of great help to heal. I loved the work of the author. Review: Another wonderful book by Dr. Ramani - Dr. Ramani understands the psychological landscape of these relationships so well and extends so much compassion to survivors of these relationships. I have been able to find myself in the chaos that I was and am surrounded with all thanks to Dr. Ramani. Her work truly empowers people. Her work needs to reach more people, and she deserves more recognition for the work that she is doing as she is making a huge difference in people's lives. Her work needs to reach those who are going through these relationships but have no one to tell them that they are not the problem. She sees these relationships for what they truly are and never makes survivors feel unsafe and feel like they are to blame for these relationships. Her work resonated with me on so many levels as often I have engaged in self-doubt and self-blame because of all the enabling and noise around me when I knew that the ones who were being protected were toxic and abusive and not the other way around. Thank you Dr. Ramani for the work that you are doing! You have helped so many people and continue to do so. God bless you and wish you all the happiness in the world! ## Technical Specifications | Specification | Value | |---------------|-------| | Best Sellers Rank | #15,805 in Books ( See Top 100 in Books ) #6 in Self-Help for Abuse (Books) #7 in Psychopathology #48 in Emotional Self Help | | Customer Reviews | 4.8 out of 5 stars 4,388 Reviews | ## Images ![It's Not You: An Essential Self Help Book on Emotional Abuse Recovery, Setting Boundaries, Healing and Reclaiming Your Life: How to Identify and Heal from NARCISSISTIC People - Image 1](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/81YkKjTYxwL.jpg) ## Customer Reviews ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Especially for DYSFUNCTIONAL FAMILIES *by V***N on 18 July 2026* People with dysfunctional families must read this book. A one stop place for all your questions about partiality between siblings and much more. Thought this book deals with narcissism in family in a superficial level, this will be of great help to heal. I loved the work of the author. ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Another wonderful book by Dr. Ramani *by M***L on 23 February 2024* Dr. Ramani understands the psychological landscape of these relationships so well and extends so much compassion to survivors of these relationships. I have been able to find myself in the chaos that I was and am surrounded with all thanks to Dr. Ramani. Her work truly empowers people. Her work needs to reach more people, and she deserves more recognition for the work that she is doing as she is making a huge difference in people's lives. Her work needs to reach those who are going through these relationships but have no one to tell them that they are not the problem. She sees these relationships for what they truly are and never makes survivors feel unsafe and feel like they are to blame for these relationships. Her work resonated with me on so many levels as often I have engaged in self-doubt and self-blame because of all the enabling and noise around me when I knew that the ones who were being protected were toxic and abusive and not the other way around. Thank you Dr. Ramani for the work that you are doing! You have helped so many people and continue to do so. God bless you and wish you all the happiness in the world! ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Radical Acceptance ! *by R***K on 8 February 2025* This book really changes one’s perspective on dealing with narcissistic people. Prior to reading this book I used to be very offensive, aggressive, and used vehemently fight against the abuse, mistreatment, manipulative mindset of the narcissist people but after reading this book my whole thought process and behaviour transcended towards “radical acceptance” and I stopped fighting against the wall, I let go and build boundaries for my own personal peace and well being. Must read for people who are dealing with Narcissistic people of all kinds. ## Frequently Bought Together - It's Not You: How to Identify and Heal from NARCISSISTIC People (Vermilion) - Should I Stay or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship with a Narcissist - Was It Even Abuse?: Restoring clarity after covert abuse. --- ## Why Shop on Desertcart? - 🛒 **Trusted by 1.3+ Million Shoppers** — Serving international shoppers since 2016 - 🌍 **Shop Globally** — Access 737+ million products across 21 categories - 💰 **No Hidden Fees** — All customs, duties, and taxes included in the price - 🔄 **15-Day Free Returns** — Hassle-free returns (30 days for PRO members) - 🔒 **Secure Payments** — Trusted payment options with buyer protection - ⭐ **TrustPilot Rated 4.5/5** — Based on 8,000+ happy customer reviews **Shop now:** [https://www.desertcart.us/products/603708016-its-not-you-an-essential-self-help-book-on-emotional](https://www.desertcart.us/products/603708016-its-not-you-an-essential-self-help-book-on-emotional) --- *Product available on Desertcart United States of America* *Store origin: US* *Last updated: 2026-07-31*