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# You Just Don't Understand: Women and Men in Conversation

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From the author of New York Times bestseller You're Wearing That? this bestselling classic work draws upon groundbreaking research by an acclaimed sociolinguist to show that women and men live in different worlds, made of different words. Women and men live in different worlds...made of different words. Spending nearly four years on the New York Times bestseller list, including eight months at number one, You Just Don't Understand is a true cultural and intellectual phenomenon. This is the book that brought gender differences in ways of speaking to the forefront of public awareness. With a rare combination of scientific insight and delightful, humorous writing, Tannen shows why women and men can walk away from the same conversation with completely different impressions of what was said. Studded with lively and entertaining examples of real conversations, this book gives you the tools to understand what went wrong -- and to find a common language in which to strengthen relationships at work and at home. A classic in the field of interpersonal relations, this book will change forever the way you approach conversations.

Review: Great book for anyone! Especially English learners - I recently acquired the book "You Just Don't Understand: Women and Men in Conversation," and I must say it's a beautiful addition to my collection. The book arrived perfectly packaged and looked like new. The cover and pages were in excellent condition, making it a visually appealing addition to my bookshelf. As for the content, the exploration of communication dynamics between women and men is insightful and thought-provoking. The author's perspective offers a fresh and engaging take on understanding the nuances of conversation between genders. I appreciate the clarity of the writing style, making complex concepts accessible and compelling. Overall, I love this book. It not only provides valuable insights into communication patterns but also does so in a way that is approachable and enjoyable to read. If you're interested in the dynamics of communication between men and women, this book is a must-have, and getting a copy in such pristine condition only enhances the reading experience.
Review: Eye Opener - As a geezer who has spent his life studying "women talk" and proud of my insight---this book knocked me on my butt---and taught me how colossally ignorant I was on the subject. In short, Tanneh demonstrates that men and women essentially speak two different languages, and each poorly understands the other's language, resulting in frequent and inevitable misunderstandings. Almost every paragraph you find yourself (at least figuratively) smacking yourself on the forehead and saying, "Damn, that's true. I never realized that before." I've read the book a half-dozen times and insisted that my wife read it (about 20 years ago). According to my wife (a VP of a Fortune-500 company) the things she has learned from the book help her to cope with her male colleagues. My wife and I have even developed private phrases to avoid many of the common male/female linguistic misunderstandings. I believe that our very good married life has substantially improved as a result of reading this book. Even so, even understanding "women-speak", I still find it largely illogical---which only reinforces Tannen's thesis that men's and women's are simply wired differently---most easily observed in differences in the use of the allegedly common language. I consider this to be among the top three books which "altered my life for the better". This is a book to buy in hardcover, and re-read frequently. It is impossible to absorb everything in a single reading---or even three readings. I give a copy to each of my nieces when they reach roughly 17. My nephews need the information more, but unfortunately, guys are less likely to read such a book. Note that this was the first of Tannen's books on the subject, but at lest of the first several, in my opinion, "You Just Don't Understand" remains the best. > Click on “Stoney” just below the product title to see my other reviews, or leave a comment to ask a question.

## Technical Specifications

| Specification | Value |
|---------------|-------|
| Best Sellers Rank | #63,507 in Books ( See Top 100 in Books ) #26 in Conversation Etiquette Guides #56 in Popular Psychology Research #57 in Communication Reference (Books) |
| Customer Reviews | 4.4 out of 5 stars 806 Reviews |

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## Customer Reviews

### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Great book for anyone! Especially English learners
*by S***. on December 7, 2023*

I recently acquired the book "You Just Don't Understand: Women and Men in Conversation," and I must say it's a beautiful addition to my collection. The book arrived perfectly packaged and looked like new. The cover and pages were in excellent condition, making it a visually appealing addition to my bookshelf. As for the content, the exploration of communication dynamics between women and men is insightful and thought-provoking. The author's perspective offers a fresh and engaging take on understanding the nuances of conversation between genders. I appreciate the clarity of the writing style, making complex concepts accessible and compelling. Overall, I love this book. It not only provides valuable insights into communication patterns but also does so in a way that is approachable and enjoyable to read. If you're interested in the dynamics of communication between men and women, this book is a must-have, and getting a copy in such pristine condition only enhances the reading experience.

### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Eye Opener
*by S***Y on April 15, 2011*

As a geezer who has spent his life studying "women talk" and proud of my insight---this book knocked me on my butt---and taught me how colossally ignorant I was on the subject. In short, Tanneh demonstrates that men and women essentially speak two different languages, and each poorly understands the other's language, resulting in frequent and inevitable misunderstandings. Almost every paragraph you find yourself (at least figuratively) smacking yourself on the forehead and saying, "Damn, that's true. I never realized that before." I've read the book a half-dozen times and insisted that my wife read it (about 20 years ago). According to my wife (a VP of a Fortune-500 company) the things she has learned from the book help her to cope with her male colleagues. My wife and I have even developed private phrases to avoid many of the common male/female linguistic misunderstandings. I believe that our very good married life has substantially improved as a result of reading this book. Even so, even understanding "women-speak", I still find it largely illogical---which only reinforces Tannen's thesis that men's and women's are simply wired differently---most easily observed in differences in the use of the allegedly common language. I consider this to be among the top three books which "altered my life for the better". This is a book to buy in hardcover, and re-read frequently. It is impossible to absorb everything in a single reading---or even three readings. I give a copy to each of my nieces when they reach roughly 17. My nephews need the information more, but unfortunately, guys are less likely to read such a book. Note that this was the first of Tannen's books on the subject, but at lest of the first several, in my opinion, "You Just Don't Understand" remains the best. > Click on “Stoney” just below the product title to see my other reviews, or leave a comment to ask a question.

### ⭐⭐⭐⭐ OK, but Embellished
*by K***. on June 10, 2023*

The examples of dialog seem embellished. For example, when the author recounts an interaction with a waitress, the reply of the waitress seems...I don't know, theatrical? I believe the author has some great insights important for people to know. But all you really need to know about the interactions between men and women is that men assess and react to all interactions by gauging the level of threat to themselves, their families, or livelihoods. This is, by far, the most interesting insight. Whereas women see, "How are you doing today?" as sincere request for information, men see it as a need to defend their position and a potential reminder for their shortcomings, whatever that may be...in work, love, home, etc. But it depends on the person asking. It all comes down to one-upmanship. Men see other men as either one up or one down. I think women do this too, but not as dramatically. So when you ask your husband if he took out the trash, he sees this as a need to defend himself. Either he did it, proving he's a man of his word, or he didn't and he must now defend himself against being seen as failure. It all makes sense now, but I got that from the first chapter. I also sense that this book, written by a woman, takes an unconscious bias towards women and rather than a neutral and scholarly approach, this attempts to defend the discourse style of women. It reads more like a self-help book for women. Which is fine, but it's not neutral if that's what you're looking for.

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