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# But It’s Your Family…: Cutting Ties with Toxic Family Members and Loving Yourself in the Aftermath

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Review: Clear and helpful guidance - I want to thank Dr. Campbell for sharing her insight into family displays of narcissistic behavior. As a woman in her seventies with an increasingly toxic older sister, I've read many good books and articles on narcissism, many of which were helpful as far as they went. "But It's your Family..." met me right where find myself now- informed and aware of my role in our sibling dysfunction, but not really knowing how to heal and move forward after choosing estrangement over manipulation. Having just finished this book, I better understand the things I need to keep in mind as I remain "no contact" in order to live peacefully. Thank you Dr. Campbell. I highly recommend this book for those who need encouragement to make their own decisions free of anyone else's judgmental abuse.
Review: Incredible book for anyone waking up to the reality that they might have a toxic family - If you're already well into your toxic-family journey, you probably won't find this book as eye-opening as I did. But it was the first full book I read on this topic and it was the first time I felt seen. Not long after reading it, I sought out Dr. Campbell and began seeing her as a client—I say that not solely in full disclosure for this review, but also to note that I have what might be a unique perspective in understanding what she writes and what she says. First off, I am not religious. There is a section called "What About God?" that I skipped without even thinking twice about. It's 10 pages, and if the Christian angle is helpful for you, it's there. As for the remaining chapters, I did not pick up any religious undertones. (As a half-Jewish kid raised in the Bible Belt, believe me, I'm pretty sensitive to that type of thing...) Also, there are several personal stories in this book. Those stories were helpful for me because they served as real-life examples of this type of toxic behavior playing out on a varied spectrum. Each time, the stories reminded me: Yes, this is real; yes, people act like this; no it's not in your head. It made me feel less of that "I must be misreading it" feeling that many of us have in the initial stages of discovering toxic family patterns. Because that's what this exploration is about: patterns. This book helped me realize I was trying to navigate persistent patterns vs. the occasional/excusable one-off. I found myself wanting to highlight tons of parts of this book, but I'll share the sections I found particularly helpful on first read. If these types of insights feel remedial for you, you'll probably want to wait for if Dr. Campbell writes a follow-up book with deeper dives into strategies, research, etc. because this is not that. As for strategies, there is a chapter devoted to no-contact. You might be interested to know that one of the first things Dr. Campbell said to me when I spoke with her was this: "No-contact is not the 'goal.' If we get there, we get there, but I want you to know I'm not advocating for that. I'm here to support you in what works best for you." That was a weight lifted, because I wasn't ready to commit to any certainties yet. I was still exploring, still trying to understand the family dynamic I was in. If you're in a similar "early" spot in figuring things out, this is a great book that clearly outlines healthy vs. unhealthy behaviors, toxicity within families and the roles everyone can take on (ie, scapegoat, golden child). Overall, I highly recommend "But It's Your Family..." as a first step in exploring the dynamics of toxic families!

## Technical Specifications

| Specification | Value |
|---------------|-------|
| Best Sellers Rank | #43,084 in Books ( See Top 100 in Books ) #34 in Dysfunctional Families (Books) #631 in Personal Transformation Self-Help #694 in Psychology & Counseling |
| Customer Reviews | 4.6 4.6 out of 5 stars (1,770) |
| Dimensions  | 6 x 0.75 x 9 inches |
| ISBN-10  | 1642790990 |
| ISBN-13  | 978-1642790993 |
| Item Weight  | 2.31 pounds |
| Language  | English |
| Print length  | 222 pages |
| Publication date  | April 9, 2019 |
| Publisher  | Morgan James Publishing |

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## Customer Reviews

### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Clear and helpful guidance
*by H***R on January 9, 2026*

I want to thank Dr. Campbell for sharing her insight into family displays of narcissistic behavior. As a woman in her seventies with an increasingly toxic older sister, I've read many good books and articles on narcissism, many of which were helpful as far as they went. "But It's your Family..." met me right where find myself now- informed and aware of my role in our sibling dysfunction, but not really knowing how to heal and move forward after choosing estrangement over manipulation. Having just finished this book, I better understand the things I need to keep in mind as I remain "no contact" in order to live peacefully. Thank you Dr. Campbell. I highly recommend this book for those who need encouragement to make their own decisions free of anyone else's judgmental abuse.

### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Incredible book for anyone waking up to the reality that they might have a toxic family
*by L***Y on February 10, 2023*

If you're already well into your toxic-family journey, you probably won't find this book as eye-opening as I did. But it was the first full book I read on this topic and it was the first time I felt seen. Not long after reading it, I sought out Dr. Campbell and began seeing her as a client—I say that not solely in full disclosure for this review, but also to note that I have what might be a unique perspective in understanding what she writes and what she says. First off, I am not religious. There is a section called "What About God?" that I skipped without even thinking twice about. It's 10 pages, and if the Christian angle is helpful for you, it's there. As for the remaining chapters, I did not pick up any religious undertones. (As a half-Jewish kid raised in the Bible Belt, believe me, I'm pretty sensitive to that type of thing...) Also, there are several personal stories in this book. Those stories were helpful for me because they served as real-life examples of this type of toxic behavior playing out on a varied spectrum. Each time, the stories reminded me: Yes, this is real; yes, people act like this; no it's not in your head. It made me feel less of that "I must be misreading it" feeling that many of us have in the initial stages of discovering toxic family patterns. Because that's what this exploration is about: patterns. This book helped me realize I was trying to navigate persistent patterns vs. the occasional/excusable one-off. I found myself wanting to highlight tons of parts of this book, but I'll share the sections I found particularly helpful on first read. If these types of insights feel remedial for you, you'll probably want to wait for if Dr. Campbell writes a follow-up book with deeper dives into strategies, research, etc. because this is not that. As for strategies, there is a chapter devoted to no-contact. You might be interested to know that one of the first things Dr. Campbell said to me when I spoke with her was this: "No-contact is not the 'goal.' If we get there, we get there, but I want you to know I'm not advocating for that. I'm here to support you in what works best for you." That was a weight lifted, because I wasn't ready to commit to any certainties yet. I was still exploring, still trying to understand the family dynamic I was in. If you're in a similar "early" spot in figuring things out, this is a great book that clearly outlines healthy vs. unhealthy behaviors, toxicity within families and the roles everyone can take on (ie, scapegoat, golden child). Overall, I highly recommend "But It's Your Family..." as a first step in exploring the dynamics of toxic families!

### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Perfect for my life
*by R***K on December 16, 2025*

My only regret is this book didn't come out 20 years ago (I'm 66). Started with a highlighter but had to switch to pen underlining cause I was highlighting every page like a coloring book. Shared book with friends and they instantly identified my parents and siblings who I FINALLY cut off. The only thing that was missing was anything about physical abuse, but as far as mental abuse the book was A++++

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